Let’s talk #NonConsensual #Erotica


There’s been a lot of media attention on this particular subject. Non-consensual, reluctant, dubious consent – and people are talking. In my mind, however, non-consensual is getting a lot of bad press.

There are some fantastic romance/erotica writers out there who deal with the subject of non-consensual romance and sex and they make a fortune from doing so. Joanna Lindsey is one of my favourites, Anne Rice is another. There are many, many more, very famous authors who take on the subject and turn it into mass market best seller books.

Why is non consensual romance/erotica enticing for the reader?

It’s exciting, that’s why. Having the heroine at complete odds with the hero, puts lots of lovely drama into a story. The sizzlingly hot sex scenes where the star of the story doesn’t want to give her body to the big bad wolf, but can’t resist his wonderful bedroom prowess and meandering fingers are electric. The odd fight with clawing fingers, slaps and struggles will also immerse the reader into a world of fire and passion.

Is non consensual romance/erotica popular?

Very. Pop the word ‘non-consensual romance’ into Amazon.com’s search engine and the top title is currently ranked the #3,807 most popular book purchased on Amazon. That’s a good rank.

Historical romances in particular deal with a lot of non-consensual romance and there’s a good reason for it. That was the way things happened years ago. Parent’s pushed females and males, for that matter, into matches that they wouldn’t have chosen for themselves. There were many factors: money, greed, power, good standing in society… the list goes on. It still happens today in Western Society, although I suspect the word ‘coercion’ would be a softer way to phrase it. We all know that arranged marriages are still popular in Middle Eastern cultures.

There’s a lot of non-consensual things that happen in everyday life, too. When your boss asks you to stay late for work and threatens that you might not have a job if you refuse, you don’t really have much choice in the matter. I’m sure we could all think of hundreds of examples where we’ve been pushed into things that we don’t really want to do.

Why has non-consensual erotica managed to get a bad name for itself?

I think people sometimes associate non-consensual erotica with the word ‘rape.’ In some cases, markedly very few, this may be the case. For the most part, erotica writers will never touch on the subject of rape for a very good reason: it’s not erotic! The last thing most readers want to read about is the horror of rape. Non-consensual erotica is generally about taking the heroine (often a spoilt, bratty type of character) down a peg or two by the means of clever control and sex by the hero of the story. The ending is nine times out of ten, a very happy one.

The bottom line

Non consensual erotica is written as a fantasy. Much like horror or indeed the fantasy genre itself, it does not condone or indeed imply that you go out there and start trying to subjugate women. Readers of horror do not go out and begin murdering people and readers of fantasy do not throw themselves off buildings and expect to fly.

Erotica is a genre that should only been seen or bought by 18+ individuals, so in theory, it should require less policing than a lot of other genres with questionable content. If retailers are adamant that want restrictions in place, then they need to make these clear and offer guidelines to respective authors.


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20 thoughts on “Let’s talk #NonConsensual #Erotica

  1. Great post, part of what makes it so enticing is the forbidden aspect.
    You make a good point abou tit being fantasy it seems to many people have a hard time separating the two. Possibly because so much is saturated in the media between TV, radio, and magazines.
    Video games get a bad rap the same way, if you play them you will turn into a rampaging killer.

  2. Excellent and obviously topical post. Yes most reasonable adults know the difference between reading and fantacising about non-con, and still are perfectly able to act in a correct manner at all times in their real lives, even if they do let their brains enjoy another realm once in a while. It’s a shame to allow our modern desire to be a watchful big brother become the thought police also. Somehow it seems to be going backward, not forward.

  3. What needs to be mentioned when media twists situations for mass market (aka: lots money) is the fact that a lot of women fantasize about rape, which is prolly why the books are a hot sale … and why? Because, when one is reading a book or fantasizing about something, THEY are in control.
    If I am going to day dream about any situation in which I am being forced to do something, you better believe, I really dont think it bad … this is NOT to say (as you all know) that I endorse or WANT to be raped.
    This means, I enjoy the TPE between myself and the hunk “forcing” me … now, how hawt is that?!? LOL

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  6. Virtually every horror tale involves non-consensual activity, right? I can’t imagine all of those victims of chainsaw decapitations, poisonings, etc. were begging for it!

    For some reason, one can pen a tale of completely non-consensual activity that ends in a pool of blood and guts without too much controversy. Yet a slightly non-consensual story that ends in mutual orgasm and everyone moving on with happy lives, however, is a cause of alarm…

    It’s absolutely crazy. Crazier than a mentally disabled dude with a hatchet attacking a summer camp filled with high school kids (which, by the way, wouldn’t raise an eyebrow in fiction world).

    • I’m with you Rosehill World! You have hit the nail squarely on the head. With all the atrocities that go on in the world, how can the front pages of the tabloid press justify this rubbish! It’s fiction. Please Mr Media Mogul… can you focus on solving real life problems, such as crazy people with machetes or guns in schools, and maybe you might do something useful with your time… for a change.

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  8. well as I toyed with, the greater the fantasy the less likely it is going to happen in reality; that’s why (I’m guessing) what would not be wanted in reality can find happy hunting grounds in a land of make-believe. Taboo stuff’s been in peoples’ minds and pens since… hell: the bible, all those myths, fairy tales. Little Red Riding Hood? There is something in us that finds that stuff fascinating (if morbidly and not necessarily erotically). Why? Who knows. It’s just a fact of being human. Oh we can be beasts indeed. And the mind allows a gate into the make-believe so others do not suffer in real life. Something like that. ?? Interesting stuff.


  9. Thanks for this one! Came across it while googling non-con. We’re trying to reposition our Megalodon story. It’s heavily non-con and we didn’t know how to handle it, but we’re picking up other books and editing the story.

  10. Anne Rice’s Beauty Trilogy inspired me to both worship, adore and write BDSM LOL. I loved it. But since, I’ve loved all sorts of BDSM writers and non-con is without doubt my favourite genre. You have to be a little careful when you write it, as it’s a difficult subject but the fantasy is amazing. That’s where it needs to stay, too; firmly in fantasy land. It makes for amazing story material though – as you know! Thanks for stopping by x

    • Holy moly, I’d heard of the Beauty trilogy but hadn’t read it yet. Just started the first book and nearly didn’t sleep last night because I was so intensely into it. It’s great. Thanks for the nudge toward it.

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