So why work the room as a couple when you can hook up instead? If you want to give role-playing a try – many sex therapists swear by it! – pretend you don’t know each other. Hello, stranger!
“Also, the better body image that comes with being an appropriate body weight can equate with feeing more sexual,” she adds. When you feel good about yourself, it translates into more mojo! So use the holidays to keep on top of your routine. Or, if you’re not feeling your best, join a gym this holiday season – ask the manager if you can get an early-bird deal on New Year promotions.
Tip: Set up dedicated e-mail accounts for your romantic e-liaisons. This extra step ensures your privacy and provides you with a special ‘secret’ account you’ll look forward to checking.
“The body responds quite similarly to scary and sexually arousing situations,” says Dr. Rucker. “For some people, that can provide a natural sexual boost.”
7. See your doctor Doctors’ offices are often less busy around the holiday period. If you’ve been avoiding talking to your doctor about sex-related issues, it’s time to stop procrastinating and make an appointment. It’s time to see your doctor if:
• Sex hurts. “Sex shouldn’t hurt, and even if you’ve been told there’s nothing physically wrong with you, there are a number of conditions that aren’t easy to identify, which can be caught with tests by a specialist,” says Dr. Rucker.
• Your partner has erectile dysfunction. “Erectile dysfunction can be an indicator of his cardiovascular health – erections require good cardiovascular shape. Diabetes can also be indicated by erectile dysfunction,” says Dr. Rucker, so a checkup may be warranted.
• You or your partner is on medication, particularly anti-depressants or anti-hypertensives, both of which can have libido-dampening effects. Your doc may be able to tweak your prescription to lessen this side effect.
• Either of you is distressed by the relationship status quo. If you’re unhappy with your sex life, a sexual therapist may be able to help you work through obstacles in a positive, non-judgmental way. See your family physician and get a referral.
- It’s Christmas… try some themed ideas… A Mrs Claus outfit, some tinsel for rope and a few metres of pretty red, festive ribbon.
- Try wrapping someone up… and making them wait for the goodies to come… the unwrapping is sure to be a desperate experience (and the wrapping paper might be wet…) (oh and make sure they can breathe…!)
- How about a spell of sitting on Santa’s knee… or laying across them… have you been a naughty girl this year? 😉
- Buy a secret Santa sex toy present for each other, accompanied with a card that has naughty instructions to be followed…