KIND and easy to confide in, Charlie Rose offers to help solve your marriage problems – sometimes by sleeping with your husband.
The mum-of-two is the picture of respectability as she packs off her teenage children to school and leaves her smart three-bedroom home for a day at the office.
But a few miles away the 32-year-old enters another world.
Her “office” is a one-bedroom flat in upmarket Exeter and her job is sex.
She charges couples £200 a time to put the passion back into their love lives and is even willing to show them how it’s done.
Charlie reckons her hands-on sex therapy courses have rekindled the dwindling sex drives of dozens of unhappy couples.
She said: “I really wanted to help couples put the spice back into their sex lives. Many of them are in happy marriages but the passion has gone.
“When a couple arrives I put them at ease by offering them a drink and getting them to talk in the lounge about their days.
“I get them to open up about the problems in their sex lives in a non-confrontational way. I’ve realised most of the issues are due to a lack of communication.
“After half an hour, I lead them into the bedroom where they undress and shower together.
“The couple will then lie down on a comfortable rug on the floor to work on their problem area while I watch.
“I encourage them to talk to each other and get involved myself to demonstrate techniques on men and women.
“In the past I have had full sex with husbands in front of their wives and demonstrated oral sex on men and women – but only if they ask me to.”
“Sometimes I only see a couple once but I have many who come back for repeat sessions.
“I prefer to see couples so the wives don’t get jealous but I can reassure all women, I have no emotional attachment to these men. For me it is just work.”
One 47-year-old woman from Devon described how she and her husband, aged 49, turned to Charlie for help.
She feared he would leave her unless things improved in the bedroom so, after finding Charlie on the internet and a half-hour phone call, she fixed up a three-hour sex training session.
She said: “It was a magical experience, one of the best decisions of my life. Oral sex in the marriage has never been good but Charlie showed us techniques we have taken on board.
“I’ve honestly never felt so in love and it’s almost like we’re a new couple again. We’re more open and honest with each other and not as prudish as before.”
This approach to couples sex is novel in the UK but far more common in the US.
And Charlie has attracted clients from all over southern England and from all walks of life – including builders, farmers, solicitors and police officers.
She even offers a kissing course. She said: “I’ve realised you get two types of people, they’re either froggers or swordsmen. The swordsmen want to battle with your tongue and the froggers want to lick half your face off.
“There’s definitely etiquette to kissing and, normally, when somebody comes to me I’ll tell them to stop and relax their mouth. By the end of the session they always say, ‘That’s fantastic, it’s really sexy.’
“All of this is about refreshing people. It’s like being a plumber, every year that plumber needs to go on a refresher course to learn about new models. It’s the same as relationships.”
Charlie, who has slept with nearly 1,000 men, also works as sex surrogate to help people with physically disabilities and impotency issues make love.
Charlie was working as a £100-an-hour escort when she realised there was a need to teach or remind couples about the joys of sex.
She said: “Most of my clients were in happy marriages but said they had stopped having sex. As an escort it wasn’t really my place to ask why.
“But I couldn’t stop thinking about it and how I wanted to help fix their marriages.
“I was already offering a kind of counselling service to these men and realised I could offer a proper service that would benefit the husbands and their wives.”
She said: “I’m not doing it just for the money. It’s what I enjoy most, people and sex.”
Charlie, who is 5ft 10in, was just 17 when she first got involved in the sex trade after agreeing to take part in photoshoot – which turned out to be dominatrix themed.
She laughed: “I was a bit naive. I immediately said, ‘Yeah, I’m up for that,’ and when I went for the meeting he showed me this huge suitcase of leather. I didn’t have a problem with it and thought I’d have a go.
“My first shoot was about eight hours’ work and I got £400, which was a lot of money back then.”
During our interview Charlie proudly shows us the picture from her first shoot in which she is dressed head-to-toe in leather, carrying a whip and riding a tractor on a farm.
Other shots show her in scanty outfits and high heels standing on top of stark-naked men.
“The men would moan and I’d constantly apologise. Eventually the photographer pulled me to one side and said, ‘Look, you can’t say sorry, they’re not being paid for it. They’re here because they enjoy it and they want to be here.’”
From there Charlie started charging men £150 a time for
private domination sessions.
She said: “It was easy money. I’d make men stand in a corner naked and whip them if they turned around. I used it as way of getting out my anger but got bored with it after a while.”
At this time Charlie stopped working as a dominatrix after getting serious with her childhood sweetheart. She quickly became pregnant and now has a boy, aged 14, and a 13-year-old girl.
But after seven years their relationship collapsed and she left her home in Nottingham to study at Plymouth University for a hospitality degree.
But after working in hotels and setting up a networking business, Charlie decided to join an escort agency.
She said: “I really enjoyed sex and I felt picking up strange men in bars was seedy so I decided this was better.
“Before long I had lots of regular clients so decided to set up on my own. But after two years I decided to try to help couples resolve their sex problems.”
Charlie, who fields calls from two mobiles during our chat, revealed both her divorced mum and dad, aged 64 and 74, and her kids approve of her work. “When I told my mum, her response was, ‘I knew it. There’s no way somebody can earn that much money fixing computers.
“As long as you’re safe, it’s fine. I love my dad. When I told him, he said: ‘Well, will it stop my strawberries from growing next year?’ I said, ‘no.’ And he went, ‘well don’t worry about it then.’”
Charlie claims her daughter “is rather proud” of her.
“I told her about 18 months ago and the easiest way for me to explain it to her was in regards to my work with disabled people. Her exact words were, ‘Ah, that’s really nice of you.’”
But would she want her own child getting involved in the sex industry? “She’s already decided she wants to be an interior designer and is into architecture.
“I’m strong enough to do this because you’ve got to split yourself into two. She’s not strong enough. I don’t think she’d want to.”
She added: “My son turned around and said as long as you’re happy, I’m happy.”
Charlie, who has a website www.sexualtraining.co.uk, insisted she enjoys work and wants to dispel the myth sex workers are dirty.
“There’s just so much negativity in society with regards to people like me.
“If you are forced into it they kind of give you this look of pity but for anybody who chooses to do it, we’re scrutinised even more.
“It winds me up when I read about MPs and politicians stating that we’re the lowest of the low.
“We’re not. I’ve got a degree with honours, I received a first in hospitality management and I had eight successful businesses. But I’ve only ever had unprotected sex with five people. People look down their noses when they know what I do for a living but they have probably had more unprotected sex than I have.
“I wouldn’t risk it, I don’t cross contaminate and everything is protected. I go to the clinic every month and they know exactly what I do for a living.
“I’m fully screened and tested and I’ve just done a documentary with the BBC called Unsafe Sex in the City. That’s how committed I am about safe sex.”
Original article by Pamela Owen writing for THE MIRROR and can be found here: http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/real-life-stories/sex-therapist-charlie-rose-would-2258993