When did SEX become such a disgusting word?
There are a lot of people in the world who don’t want to talk about sex. The older generations are especially uptight about the subject, and any reference to sex is often treated as taboo or not fit for polite conversation. Others will state religious grounds to their allergy of all things sexual. Yeah right. If God disapproved of sex, he probably wouldn’t have too many subjects to take care of.
So what’s the big deal?
We’re surrounded by sex in our everyday lives. Models on magazine covers, newspapers, mannequins in shop windows, actresses on TV, 50 Shades of Grey in our bookstores, and the pornography that can be found free of charge on the internet is simply astounding. Sex is everywhere. Vibrators have become commonplace, the number of internet sex toy shops must have tripled in the last five years alone, and with the advent of the e-Reader, we’ve all had a sneak peek, whether we want to admit it or not.
So why are we embarrassed?
Is it because we’re trying to fit in with everyone else? We don’t want other people to think we’re thinking about sex. We’re so obsessed with what other people think about us that we want to portray ourselves as perfect little individuals, leading almost staid, sterile lives. Sex? We have no idea what the word means.
Ha! Everybody thinks about sex. Everybody. Even preachers, honest. It’s an intrinsic part of our make up, whether we like it or not. After a few drinks, most people are happy to talk about it amongst friends, but their neighbourhood image must be preserved at all costs. What would the vicar think? How about the organisers at the PT committee? The list is endless.
Is our aversion to sex mostly due to our need to fit in socially? And why is it still socially unacceptable to talk about sex, baby?
I think we’ve discovered that masturbation will not cause blindness, and it’s actually good for your health, believe it or not. Forget serotonin, do a couple of masturbatory sessions a day and see what that does to your mood level! We’ve also discovered that watching porn at the cinema is quite good fun. We can talk about sexy books amongst friends and have a giggle. We are becoming more liberated as a nation, when amongst friends or loved ones. Those social circles are still a problem, though, aren’t they?
I know as an erotica writer, that there’s a good reason I don’t want everyone aware of what I’m doing. It’s not the disapproval I mind so much, as the lewd jibes and thinking it’s okay to poke fun out of me at every opportunity. No, I’m not ashamed of what I’m doing, but neither do I particularly want that kind of attention. It’s tough. Sex still isn’t accepted in many circles, and faces a lot of disapproval at every turn. It seems to be an upward battle with no summit in sight.
I want a nation of people who are not afraid to talk about sex, but more than that, who are not afraid to go explore their sexuality without fear of reprisals. I don’t care whether you’re gay, transgender, bi, lesbian or straight – all of these options should be socially accepted and perfectly normal. You like BDSM? Great. Your weird and wonderful kinks make you who you are, and I want people to love you all the more for it. Who cares what the neighbours say! It’s about time sex was celebrated for the joyous act it is, and not hushed for the embarrassment and shame that should never have been associated with it.
The human body is an amazing creation. Sex is a beautiful thing. Let’s embrace it and have a little fun. I have a feeling the world would be a better place if we did.
Thoughts anyone? Good or bad, I’ll take ‘em…