The BDSM Play Party – #Kink and #Fetish

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What is a ‘Play Party’ in a nutshell?

Well, it’s a private gathering, usually hosted in someone’s home,

and it’s where people play kinky games. You might be invited to one of these parties after a munch or larger public BDSM event and if you’re curious as to what might happen… I’m here to share some of the in’s and out’s 😉

Firstly, these events aren’t always spontaneous and they sometimes require you to attend ‘inductions’ or ‘orientations’ before you’re allowed in. This is for your benefit as much as theirs – they’ll give you the run down on what to expect, their safety protocols, what’s allowed, what isn’t etc. It’s a get-to-know-each-other session, and it helps to make both parties more at ease when the big day arrives.

There will often be paperwork that you’ll need to read, and you may be requested to sign and return, noting that you’ve read and agree to abide by the stated rules. Photographic ID may be required on entrance, so read your documentation thoroughly. There will also probably be a list of ‘forbidden’ or ‘prohibited’ items such as cell phones and cameras. No one wants a stray photo of themselves ending up on FB or Twitter – so make sure you leave these behind. If you’re caught with one, expect to get your memory card crushed.

What to wear/bring?

Well, their neighbours will probably have a fit if you saunter down their drive in your fetish wear, so cover up with a long coat or bring a bag and change into your costume when you’re inside.

If you’re expecting to take part in a scene yourself, bring your toys and any items you’ll require for aftercare later. An energy bar or a bottle of water perhaps?

What can I expect to see?

Well that all depends on who’s hosting and what they enjoy. It could be impact play, electrical play, fire play, a BDSM themed roll play, fisting… yep, the list is endless. If there are some aspects of BDSM that you find a little too much, it’s always best to ask your hosts what sort of ‘play’ might be on the cards. That way, you can make an informed decision before you run screaming in a fit of tears from their house.

What should I do?

If it’s your first party – enjoy yourself! Watch politely, from a distance, and keep your voices down whilst the scene is unfolding. It kind of ruins the mood if people are gossiping away in the background. Never touch anyone without their / their Mistress/Master’s explicit permission and don’t touch yourself. This isn’t a swingers party, nor is it a mass orgy. Similarly, if alcohol is available, limit your intake. If you get kicked out of a party, chances are you won’t be invited to another!

I want to play, too – what should I do?

If it’s your first party, the best thing you can do is watch and learn. If you want to actively take part in the next, you can enter negotiations for your own scene at a party or offer to host one yourself. Make sure you do your research first, though, and be prepared!

Stay Safe, Sane, Consensual – And Have Fun!

 

One thought on “The BDSM Play Party – #Kink and #Fetish

  1. I Think Your Very Good At This! I Realise This Is As Much For Newcomers As Experienced BDSM Party Goers! Spontaneous Would Be Different Expectations For Most People, From Light to Heavy, Or Even Confusion! Thank You!

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