Original Article by Zara Barrie of Elite Daily
“My boyfriend does not know how to go down on me AT ALL,” said my friend Lola*. “He just sticks his massive face in between my legs and devours my vagina like it’s a jelly goddamn donut. It’s not even remotely enjoyable.” “Don’t even get me started. My boyfriend won’t go down on me unless he’s blackout drunk,” my other friend Suzie* quipped. “He fell asleep down there last weekend, the stupid fuck.” We were at lunch, and my two friends were complaining about their boyfriends and how much they suck at giving oral sex.
“Zara, I hate you. You’re, like, so lucky to be a lesbian,” Lola said, gazing at me with her icy blue eyes. Are you kidding me? I thought. My people are harassed, repressed, kicked out of their homes and are having to fight the government for their basic human rights, constantly. Remind me again how that’s lucky? “Your sex life must be totally amazing,” Suzie said, dreamily. “Women just know what they’re doing. You’re all oral sex experts.” And suddenly, I realized, Holy shit, people have weird ideas about lesbian sex. Like really, really, REALLY weird ideas about lesbian sex.
I don’t know if it’s because of all the salacious lesbian porn streaming across the internet, or if it’s because we lesbians are generally elusive and private about our sex lives. I don’t know if it’s because we’re so fetishized by the culture, or if my straight friends just happen to have really lackluster sex lives and project their wildest fantasies onto lesbians. But I started asking every straight person I encountered about what they thought lesbian sex was like. And honey, it doesn’t take much to shock me, but I was genuinely shocked about the myths surrounding lesbian sex. I was moved I even wrote a piece about it. Only there were so many strange myths surrounding lesbian sex, I had to turn them into two separate articles. So, here are 7 (more) myths about lesbian sex, debunked by yours truly. 1. We’re ALL experts at oral sex. Apparently, a lot of you think we’re all fearless rockstars when it comes to the art of oral sex. Well, listen up, girls and boys. I might be a fearless rockstar with oral sex, but not every lesbian has been blessed with a tongue like mine. Here is the thing that everyone — including some lesbians — tend to forget: All women’s bodies are built extremely different from one another. We all have different trigger spots and sensitive little areas that are unique to us.
I might love having three fingers shoved inside of me, meanwhile you might not enjoy penetration at all. I might like circular motions from your tongue, but you might prefer side-to-side action from my tongue. I might enjoy subtle tongue on my clit, but you might enjoy a heavy tongue on your clit. See where I’m going? “We all have different trigger spots and sensitive little areas that are unique to us.” I’ve been with women who have recklessly devoured my vagina and were completely blind to the clues my body sent them. I’ve been with women who were with the same partner for so long, they couldn’t fathom that I didn’t like it exactly how their ex did. I’ve been with women who were drunk and fell asleep while going down on me, too. In fact, I once drunkenly fell asleep while going down on my girlfriend. See, we’re a mess! Just like you straight people. However, most of the time, women are pretty damn talented at oral sex. We’re just NOT ALL super talented at oral sex. 2. If you have long hair, you’re a “pillow princess.” A pillow princess is a person who lays flat on the bed and lets your partner do all the hard work. Which is definitely not my style. (Feel free to ask all of my sex partners, babe). But this doesn’t stop people from thinking it is. “You’re a pillow princess, huh?” a gay boy purred once. “Uh, why would you say that?” I bit back, irritated. “Because you have long hair and long eyelashes.” Really, dude? Because I have long hair (which is basically 90 percent hair extensions, BTW), I’m some kind of fair maiden who lays back and lets my girlfriend have her way with me? That’s just stupid.
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